How often do the thoughts arise of all the reasons you are not able to achieve the goals you’ve set? Be honest with yourself.
The doubt, the fear, the thoughts of how you’re not “good enough, strong enough, capable enough” they’ve more than likely been present at one time or another.
Here’s the thing:
You don’t have to let doubt or negative self-talk control what you do as a response to anything. That of course does not mean doubt and fear are not present, but in the moments of such thoughts and emotions, the power will lie in making the shift to know that you are in complete control of what you do with them.
Choose to hold the power. Choose to let those thoughts go and create a new way of thinking.
Know you’re enough. Believe you are capable. Here are some tips I use on a daily basis!
How To Conquer The Fear Of Failure in 4 Easy steps
1. Reframe Your Goals
First, reframe failure by shifting your goals. Expand your goal to include learning something new and you will never technically “fail” because there is always something to be learned.
For Example, instead of stetting a specific number for weight loss goals, include a learning experience. "Lose 5 pounds in the next 2 weeks and learn what triggers my sugar cravings"
2. Visualize Obstacles
Think of a situation in which you are afraid of failure. Maybe you are fearful that you will NEVR lose the weight. Visualize yourself now hitting an obstacle (not seeing the scale move), allow yourself to feel the fear, and then see yourself moving forward. Continuing on your healthy eating and workout program despite the "lack of results. Then see yourself succeeding despite these obstacles.
3. Ask Three Powerful Questions
So you failed. You screwed up, you fell off the wagon...now it's time to ask yourself these three powerful questions:
1) What did I learn from this situation? "Stress makes me eat"
2) How can I grow as a person from this experience? "Balance my work/life schedule better moving forward so that I am less stressed"
3) What are three positive things about this situation? "I can do better tomorrow, It was only 5 cookies and not the whole box, I thew them away so I won't be tempted tomorrow"
4. Surrender and Feel The Fear
We allow fear to paralyze us because we don’t like "the feeling of fear." But if you simply allow yourself to feel the fear when it shows up, you will notice that it quickly dissipates and suddenly the situation feels more manageable. Take a couple deep breaths if you feel like you are going to go crazy and start binge eating sweets or salty treats. You can face this craving. You got this!!
If you think about it; it seems ridiculous that we would give the power to a cupcake or a bag of chips and allow it do disrupt our weight loss goals. So doesn’t it see just as ridiculous to allow your thoughts to do the same?
Know this. You can lose the weight. You can fulfill every single goal you’ve set out to achieve. You just have to be willing to take control of the power you hold to do so.
Hope this helps Fam!